I really think there is a need for community in cancer survivorship. Especially in our own appendix cancer community. I did for a very short time join a cancer support group, but I didn’t last long there. The community was mostly women diagnosed with breast cancer. And while I know cancer is cancer and we all shared that, I kind of didn’t fit in. And I’m sorry, but sometimes I have resented the breast cancer community. They have so much publicity and education, have so many fundraising events, have so many research dollars. We with appendix cancer see very little of that for our disease. For breast cancer patients, when one chemotherapy doesn’t work, there is always a new one waiting in the wings. My sister-in-law had stage 4 breast cancer, but her life was extended many years by new drugs that had just come off the pipeline. When one drug stopped working , there was another one that helped. You can also be screened for breast cancer, and breast cancer caught early has an almost 100% 5 year survival. There is no screening for appendix cancer, and if there was, it probably would be hard to get and not covered as our disease is so rare. And our surgeries are much more difficult than mastectomies.
The Heat it to Beat It walk is the closest I’ve felt to being in an appendix cancer support environment.
I would like all of you reading this to think about taking one step further in becoming part of an appendix cancer community. I will speak to and support anyone who calls or emails me, I do that whenever I can. But I also have forums on this site, and they can become an on-line support group for us (we are so rare we will never really find an in person support group). There is one other appendix cancer support group on line, the PMP Belly Button Club. I know those who have liked to be a part of that but sometimes get discouraged at hearing of so many struggles with this disease.
But we can start a support group here and maybe make it a bit different. Maybe we can talk about and support each other in our cancer struggles, but maybe we can also do something constructive. Search for opportunities to educate the public and medical community about our disease, support each other in coming up with ideas for events to support and educate about our cancer. Maybe we can even make it part book club! In my many years as a cancer survivor, I’ve heard of the book Emperor of all Maladies, a “biography” of cancer. I finally ordered a copy. I usually read on my Kindle, but this I ordered hard copy as it may be something I want to highlight. Anyone want to read it with me?
So maybe come aboard and join the forums, introduce yourself and lets have our own unique support group for just us!! Maybe we can even find a way to all meet in person some day! I can rent a shelter at my local fairgrounds and we can have a picnic! I really care about all of you.
And lastly, remember, we are ALL cancer SURVIVORS if we are still living even one day past diagnosis!
I am frequently asked if I know any long term survivors of appendix cancer besides myself. Well, since I’ve started this non-profit in 2008, I have been in contact with over 2000 newly diagnosed appendix cancer patients, I think it’s actually closer to 3000. But most contact me when they are diagnosed and I communicate with them through their surgery and their return to normal life, but after awhile most stop communicating with me. So I don’t know how long they’ve survived even though I’ve been doing this for 10 years. I have met many long term survivors in Baltimore Maryland, though, where renowned appendix cancer specialist Dr. Armando Sardi hosts a 2.2 or 1.1 mile walk (now it’s in the Baltimore Zoo!!) called Heat it to Beat It, referring to heated intraperitoneal chemotherapy. It is a wonderful way of meeting other survivors! I went for the first five years, I was there at it’s inception, but have missed the last three. I AM going this year though!!! I will also represent this organization there.
Heat it to Beat it is a WONDERFUL experience! There are several organizations there, including my own, that are non-profits devoted to appendix cancer. Dr. Sardi always has a wonderful presentation, the walk is beautiful and there is great food offered. Most of all, though, you get to see and meet hundreds of people who have been diagnosed with and survived appendix cancer. It is so inspiring! There is also a reception the night before the walk.
If you want to register for the walk, I started a team for this organization. If you sign up, register for the team Appendix Cancer Connection. You don’t have to donate any money, your registration fee is your contribution for our team. You can donate more if you want, but I would never expect that, we all have lots of medical bills. This is the link to register: Heat it to Beat It. I’m doing it cheaply this year! I got a $95 flight on Southwest by letting them send me their credit card, which I don’t need to keep if I don’t want, just pay the $95 bill. I am also, for an adventure, staying in this hostel, the HI Baltimore hostel, and not a hotel! It’s only $30 a night and has great ratings! I’ve only stayed in a hostel once before when backpacking the Appalachian Trail, and that was actually my best experience on the hike because of the great people I met. So I’ll stay there for 2 nights. If any of you come to the walk and want to stay in the hostel with me, that would be great!
Below I have a picture of the beginning of the walk in 2011. Again, it is a GREAT experience and I would love to see you there! And you would meet so many other survivors and leave with a great sense of hope!
Heat it to Beat IT 2011
It’s supposed to be springtime, but it’s a bit late coming this year! We are supposed to have twelve hours of snow starting tonight, though it’s not supposed to accumulate. But the grocery stores and gas stations were really busy today! I’ve always thought of springtime as a time of new beginnings. I personally prefer, if I am going to make New Year’s Resolutions, to make them on May first! It a time when all that was dead comes back to life, when the world is again filled with color.
This year I’d like to lose a little weight and get in shape to go backpacking and biking! Last year I did a bicycle century, rode my bike 100 miles in a day. I did that once before, six month after I completed chemo. I did trained for it while I was on chemo!
I was asked again today what I did differently after my cancer diagnosis. Did I live my life differently, did I change my diet? The answer is no, I lived my life after cancer exactly as I had before cancer. I did then and still do now sometimes eat fast food. I still occasionally eat junk food, and did right after my cancer diagnosis and treatment. I rode my bike a lot after the cancer diagnosis, but that was kind of my emotional outlet, when I felt scared or stressed I rode my bike. I remember on a bad day riding my bike in the rain when it was only 40 degrees! I smoked when I was diagnosed with cancer, and didn’t quit until 2 years after my diagnosis….getting diagnosed with cancer makes it very hard to quit smoking if that’s how you deal with stress! So I did nothing “magic”: to survive Stage IV signet ring cancer for so many years. I just got good medical treatment.
I’ve had some ask me about support groups. There are not usually in person support groups for this cancer as it is so rare. I know of an online one, PMP Belly Button Club. I also have forums on my new web site that I hope will become support groups. They are for patients and families. Those who read this blog, please try to sign p for the forums! I’ll be there! Maybe we can get a support group going! It is a tad tedious to sign onto the forums, but that is a good thing. I had a forum on a previous web site that was 80% spam because it wasn’t as secure as these forums.
I hope springtime is filling you all with the sense of a new and beautiful beginnings!
Just a quick post, more later, but there are a few emails I’ve been sent that for some reason I’ve not been able to reply to, the replies bounce. If you are someone who has not heard back form me, can you email me again? Or you can call me! One of you was a researcher I am very interested in communicating with.
Will be back with more soon!
Easter is a really important holiday. I’m a Christian, but if I didn’t believe in Easter, I wouldn’t believe in Christ or the Bible or churches. The whole point of Christianity is that death has been defeated, we will never cease to be alive, to belong, to be loved.
Of course, facing a death sentence, you delve into your spirituality. I’d always thought of myself as Christian, but I had to delve deeper into it. Think harder about it, KNOW what I believed. A friend bought me a book, the Healing Power of the Christian Mind. I don’t believe that you can cause or cure you cancer with your mind, and I don’t believe God heals everyone. I’ve known many devout Christians who have died of cancer, who believed God would heal them, but weren’t healed. But for some reason that book brought me peace, I read it more than once. I don’t have a clue why, but I own two copies! Now I can’t remember what it was about or why it helped me, but it did.
I also developed an obsession with reading books about near death experiences, my mother told me she’d had one while in her 20s when she was near death and after that was not afraid to die. One of my favorite books about NDEs was a book by Randy Alcorn, In Light of Eternity.
When Christ was resurrected, he had a physical body that someone could touch, could hug. He still ate food. When I die, I will get a new PHYSICAL body, that will never get sick or have cancer. I will never struggle with my weight, my sense of smell, which I lost maybe via chemo, it will be perfect. I’ll smell flowers again. The bunion on my foot will be gone. I’ll be reunited with those I’ve missed, I’ll be able to give them hugs. Heaven will I believe be earth as it was in the beginning, perfect. Christ in his new body was able to to instantly be in another place with no form of travel. Will we be able to do that too? That would mean no beauty disrupted by highways and cars and pollution. When you read of near death experiences, many say the colors and the sense of love and the beauty they experienced couldn’t be described in any words they knew. That there were more and better colors. If you get a chance, read some of these books, they will give you a sense of what to hope for. And I believe the descriptions. I don’t believe I will be on a cloud playing a harp or be in an eternal church service when I die….I believe we will do things we love doing.
Easter means all of this to me. It’s a gift we can choose to receive. I am not afraid of being dead now, as much as I am afraid of dying, of maybe the pain or discomfort involved, of saying goodbye to those I love, of causing them pain. But in a recent sermon I heard about eternity (I listened to it online :-), the minister used a garden hose long enough to stretch around the world several times, to reach to stars that were light years away as an example of eternity. But there was a 2 foot long section of the hose that was a different color. That section, he said, was how long our life is, just a tiny piece of the eternity of time. Those we leave won’t miss us for long, but will be with us for eternity.
My wish after being diagnosed with and surviving cancer, was that when it is my time to die, I want to just die rapidly. I don’t want to live to contemplate my death and my losses again. My father died the way I want to die. He was sitting in his recliner one night watching TV, and yawned. My mom asked him if he wanted to go to bed, and he said in a bit. Then he quit breathing and his heart stopped. He just died. He didn’t have to contemplate losing his life, his loved ones, his future. He was very fortunate.
But as a nurse I am always looking at statistics. Unfortunately, 90% of us will die slow deaths from chronic disease. Deaths like my father’s are only 10% of all deaths. Only one in ten are blessed with those deaths, dying in your sleep in your bed…..
As I have been in the cancer community so long, I have communicated with many who are dying of cancer. As I want to support cancer patients, I want to support ALL of them. I want to help those seeking treatment, but I also want to help those who will succumb to their disease. I have made some friends I have lost to appendix cancer.
In order to get better at helping those who would die from cancer, I worked as a volunteer for a hospice organization for 6 months. I worked as a respite aid. I stayed with cancer patients while their families went out for dinner or to appointments. Sometimes families just needed to get away for a few hours.
I learned how much hospice can offer. The hospice I worked with offered nursing aids who would bath the patient, change bed linens, feed patients and even cook meals. Nurses saw the patients often and were on call 24/7. Patients were never allowed to be in pain or to be anxious. Counseling was offered as were clergy services. Hospice workers and volunteers would help patients make memory boxes for those they were leaving behind. The hospice offered grief counseling to families for a year after the patient had passed. Patients last days were made comfortable spiritually, emotionally and physically.
The sad thing I’ve learned about hospice is that usually patients enter hospice only days before they die, when they could have had hospice services for 6 months. Hospice services help both the family members and the surviving loved ones. When I know I am nearing my end times, I want hospice care. For what it’s worth, in my cancer journey I learned of one woman who entered hospice (to enter a doctor has to say they expect you to die within 6 months), and she didn’t die! She lived for 8 years with hospice services! At least with her hospice, once you were in you could never be discharged!
I’ve been recently speaking with someone newly diagnosed, and I was remembering how I felt when I was newly diagnosed. Interesting, someone I think said, “but we all know we are going to die”, as if knowing that was a given. As if knowing I might die was something we all knew every day.
But when I was diagnosed, I was told by a respected cancer center at a major city university hospital that there was no treatment for my cancer. And we know that cancer that is not treated is fatal. My kids were only 10 and 11. That meant I would not be there to see them finish grade school. Not see them grow up, not be there for their first dates, their first boyfriends, learning to drive a car, their first job,marriage if they chose to marry. I would involuntarily abandon my children. What was the worst thing a mother could do….abandon her children. I wouldn’t get to grow old with my husband. He would have to raise our children alone. I wouldn’t go back to school for my Master’s degree, I wouldn’t go on more vacations, I’d have to leave my job. Funny, at the moment I can’t remember where I was working when I was diagnosed, so I guess my job wasn’t really important then. But the sense of impending loss was overwhelming. Though the day before I knew I would someday die, knowing that I likely WOULD die in a limited amount of time was totally different. I remember thinking if I died, those who loved me would lose me, but I would lose EVERYTHING!!! Everything I knew, everything I did, everything I hoped for, everyone I loved.
Facing a potential death sentence is MUCH different from knowing you will someday die. The day I was diagnosed, my “normal” life was gone.
Even when I had some hope, when I was going to get treatment that was 28% successful in a clinical trial, I still had a good chance of not living more than another year or two. I read everything, and for my particular variety of appendix cancer, numbers said it was 90% fatal, some research I read didn’t even give a number, it just said outcomes for my particular cancer, signet ring, was “poor”. The other varieties all had numbers for survival, not mine. Take my advice, don’t look for survival numbers! The truth is that many of the numbers include treatment that only included the removal of the appendix and a hemicolectomy and IV chemo, not the cytoreducation surgery and HIPEC, which has a much better outcome. The number also include some that received no treatment at all.
I think I remember someone telling me I was lucky, because I probably lived everyday like it was my last, appreciating everything and stopping to “smell the flowers”. I did live for awhile like every day was my last, and it is a horrible way to live! Think of your day, thoughts you might have. Your daughter’s birthday is next month, you are going for lunch with a friend next week, vacation in 6 months. You have things you want to accomplish at work tomorrow. We all live assuming and comforted by the fact that we have a future. We look forward to things in the future, we dream. That is taken away when you feel you may have no future.
For a long time I didn’t live every day like it was my last, but I didn’t plan my life beyond the next CT scan, which was in three or six months. After I had a clean CT scan, I could plan my future only until the next one. That was also a difficult was to live. It was a relief when CT scans became once a year.
I did appreciate the milestones I have able to enjoy. My daughters’ graduations from grade, middle and high school, teaching them to drive, being there for first boyfriends. Both have now graduated from college and one has married (I am not a grandmother yet).
I will be a 17 year survivor in May, May 16th. I am not considered cured, they don’t use that word anymore, I am just living in long-term remission from cancer. I remember when I was younger they called cancer cured if you lived 5 years cancer free; no longer, but that’s okay. I no longer get CT scans or see an oncologist. I don’t currently fear a recurrence anymore, I feel I am just as likely to get a new cancer.
You lose your sense of “normal” when you are diagnosed with cancer, but in the end, you can develop a new, and even better “normal”.
I will be attending an educational offering this week about a new cancer therapy, Cart T cells. It is a form of immunotherapy. I’d been interested in immuntherapy before, getting your body’s own immune system to destroy cancer. Cancer has a way of currently evading our immune system, so our immune system is not usually able to defeat cancer. The trials I’ve seen of immune therapies in the past have not been very successful.
Cart T cells are a form of immunotherapy that seems to be very successful in fighting certain blood cancers (not solid tumor cancers like ours). It is very effective against some leukemias and lymphomas (blood cancers). I am still learning, but what I have read is that white cells from the immune system are removed from the patient (blood is removed from the patient and the white cells are taken out of the blood and the rest of the blood is returned to the patient). These white cells that are removed are genetically altered to fight cancer, then are multiplied and returned to the patient. I read of a clinical trial in which 30 children with a form of leukemia who had failed all other treatments were treated with this immunotherapy. 27 of the 30 experienced complete and long lasting remissions. These were 27 children that would have likely died form their cancer. That is amazing!!! I’m hoping that since you are only returning the patient’s own blood cells to them that there are no side effects.
While this treatment currently would not help any of us with appendix cancer, they are working on advancing this therapy to work on solid tumors like ours. So maybe one day! It’s possible there would be a treatment that did not involve any chemotherapy or surgery to cure cancers.
Wouldn’t that be amazing!
I am attending the educational offering this Thursday evening. I’ll get back to you to let you know what I’ve learned!
Helping a loved one diagnosed with cancer. What can I do to help? This is a question many ask me. There are several things you can do.
If you can afford to donate money to their cause, that is helpful. I had help with all of my many flight back and forth to New York
But while financial donations are appreciated, the donation of time is often valued even more. Maybe you can help with child care. My kids were 10 and 11 when I was diagnosed, and my wonderful mother-in-law was there to take care of my kids for the many several day trips to New York and for the two weeks I was there for my surgery.
Encouragement is good, but PLEASE don’t tell them they have to think positive to beat cancer. They don’t. Studies have shown that attitude has nothing to do with cancer survival. We don’t tell people to think positive or their broken leg won’t heal! I personally felt depressed and angry and hopeless sometimes. I couldn’t talk to those who told me I had to think positive. They right away said, oh no, you can’t beat this unless you think positive! Then I couldn’t talk to them when I needed someone to talk to. My best friend was perfect, she listened to me cry when I was so afraid of dying and abandoning my kids. She just listened and understood how I felt. Jimmie Holland, a woman who was a physician and psychiatrist who helped patients with the emotional aspect of cancer, wrote a book called “The Human Side of Cancer: Living with Hope but Coping with Uncertainty. A wonderful chapter in her book was titled “The Tyranny of a Positive Attitude“, you can read it here. You don’t get cancer because you are stressed or depressed, and you don’t make cancer go away by thinking positive. Cancer is a biological disease. People who think positive die of their cancer, and people who think negatively may live for decades.
If you visit in the hospital, it is great to encourage the person to be out of bed and active, it will help their healing and prevent complications. You can say “Hey, do you want to go walk in the hall?”, or try to get them to sit up in a chair to play cards or games with you. Good gifts are books and music that help distract them from pain and being in the hospital. Find out what they are allowed to eat or drink, and if they can have it, bring some! I love to drink unsweetened sparkling water, not something hospitals have!
And best of all, just be there to listen. If they are afraid of dying and want to talk about dying, that’s ok, I needed to talk about that, If they want to talk about how depressed they are, or how angry they are, that’s okay. Just be there to listen to whatever they need to say. I twill help them get past the difficult feelings.
If anyone has helped someone with cancer and would like to add their advice here, that would be appreciated! You can add it as a comment here, or if you want, start a conversation on the forums!
Treatment for appendix cancer can be trying. The surgery has been nicknamed the MOAS (mother of all surgeries) as depending on how many cancer affected organs and tissues are removed, it can be the equivalent of several “major surgeries”. You can do a lot to help yourself recover from treatment.
Because it is such a big surgery, about 25% of patients have some sort of complication. Complications can include pneumonia, blood clots in the legs that can travel to the lungs (deep vein thrombosis and pulmonary embolis), ileus (bowels stop moving), bedsores, poor wound healing. I have list of complications on my webiste at Surgical Treatment of Appendix Cancer.
The average hospital stay is 2 weeks, but it can be up to a month with complications. But there is much you can do to avoid complications from the MOAS surgery. I was told I would be in the hospital for two weeks, but I was discharged in only 6 days! I walked 3 miles 8 days after my surgery! I was back to driving my car and doing all things normal (except for heavy lifting) 2 weeks after my surgery.
How did I do that? It’s because I was a nurse and knew how to help myself recover quickly.
Unfortunately many of us grew up in a society that always felt “your sick, you should rest”. Everyone wants to make you comfortable in bed, they want to fluff your pillows. They want you to sleep a lot because you “need the rest”
This is actually the worst way to recover from major surgery. Bodies aren’t meant to be lying still all day and not moving! I knew that, so beginning the first day after my surgery, I decided to stay out of bed except to sleep at night. I was either up in a chair or walking the halls all day long starting the first day after my surgery. I didn’t wear hospital clothes, I brought street clothes and wore leggings or sweat pants (need the elastic waist) with blouses or sweaters starting the day after my surgery. You don’t HAVE to wear hospital gowns except to surgery! I only put on pajamas at night.
It did hurt to start walking right away, and I couldn’t stand up straight the first few days I walked, but it was okay. They had a piano, so I could walk there and play the piano some days. My husband and I also went to the recreation room to play games during the day starting the second day after surgery. Blood clots in the legs that travel to the lungs can be a very serious complication, even fatal. This can occur from blood pooling in the legs if you lay in bed. Walking helps prevent these clots. Being up walking also helps you to expand your lungs, preventing pneumonia. Your bowels move as much as you do, so walking can help your bowels start working again after surgery and prevents an ileus, a common complication. Wounds also heal faster when you are up and about. Yes, you will be uncomfortable, and yes, it will hurt, but you need to stay out of bed. Ask for an abdominal binder, a wide elastic belt that supports your abdomen. I used one and it really reduced the pain of moving (though they didn’t give it to me in the hospital, I bought one at Walgreen the day after I was discharged). You can ask someone to buy you one at a drug store if the hospital doesn’t have one.
I also didn’t use any narcotics for pain. Narcotics can make you sleepy so you won’t want to walk as much, and they can also slow your bowels and depress your breathing, helping cause the complications of pneumonia and ileus. I knew of a drug for pain that was NOT a narcotic called Toradol. Initially when I woke up from surgery they had me on a morphine drip, I asked them to get remove it. Toradol is an IV anti-inflammatory, kind of like a very strong IV Motrin, It worked much better for my abdominal pain than the morphine drip had. It can only be used for 5 days, so after that I was given 800mg of Motrin (ibuprophen) by mouth every 8 hours. My pain was well controlled without narcotics.
The IV chemo in my abdomen caused no side effects or symptoms at all.
I did do IV chemo for 7 months (I was told not for the cancer in my abdomen but in case any cells escaped from my abdomen and were trying to go to other parts of my body. I lived a normal life on IV chemo. I told my doctor and chemo nurses any side effects I had, and they gave me medications so that I did not have those side effects again. I even did athletic training while I was on chemo. 6 months after I finished chemo I did my first bicycle century, I rode 100 miles in one day.
I think a lot of how you recover is mental. You can decide to feel badly for yourself and to not do anything that will make you uncomfortable and to stay in bed a lot “getting well” and “recovering”. But the best thing you can do for your recovery, to make if faster and without complications, is to MOVE as much as possible!!!